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John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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The emotional stimulus of certain songs or chronicling dates – like anniversaries and birthdays (Published 2-14-12)


I have lost my dad, and a husband in the last 14 years. My dad passed away in May of 1997, and my husband, May in 2000. I am still having difficulty moving on with my life. Every time a certain song, or their anniversaries are near, I get so sad and depressed, and I cry often. Is it normal to be grieving even after all this time? I relive their deaths every year. My dad died on May 2nd, and my husband died on May 14th. It's a very hard time for me. Do you have any insight on what I am experiencing?

Thanks for your time.
God Bless.


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