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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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"Grief is not so much a disease to be cured, as it is a natural reaction to loss, and the goal should be reconciliation and completion, not avoidance." (Published 10/16/2012)


I just want to say thank you.

I found "The Grief Recovery Handbook" very helpful.

After losing my husband to cancer I became very sad and reached out to my healthcare provider for support. They asked if I thought I might be depressed. I said yes, who wouldn't be after losing their life-long partner?.
They setup an appointment for me with a psychiatrist who was anxious to put me on anti-depressants and "treat my illness".
I took them for 6 months but they didn't really help me do anything but sleep so I stopped taking them but, I was feeling worse instead of better.

I called back & requested counseling but was told drugs would be more effective in "curing me".
I more or less gave up on them at that point.

That's when I found your book online and ordered it.
What I found most helpful about the book is that it clarified in writing what I knew to be true in my heart: That grief is not so much a disease to be cured, as it is a natural reaction to loss, and the goal should be reconciliation and completion, not avoidance.

I want to thank you for lessening the guilt and stigma surrounding grief so I could begin to heal in a very real sense, by accepting that my feelings were normal and to be expected.

Everyone seems to just want us to "get over" it.
I think I know by now that one doesn't really "get over" losing a loved one. They just learn to incorporate the loss into their life. Although they are gone, our feelings for them remain and must be sorted. It's more about forming a new relationship with them from afar than it is about forgetting.
One never really forgets.

Your book was a validation of this for me.
It helped me a lot. Thank you :)

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